We cannot pour from an empty cup
What I would like you to know though is that I had wonderful support over this extremely stressful time in my life from Neil, my family, my friends and my upline and my team. I didn’t intentionally omit that but the blog was already too long and even though I had support, no one could wear one of my hats for me and no one could give up their life for a few weeks while I slept.
Even with the above mentioned love and support, I still had lots going on and the main point is that I was at peaking stress for way too long…like 18 months to 2 years….without some quiet months. The building of the house via correspondence (which was all kept secret (not my nature) from our friends in Pinjarra as we didn’t want to lose our job while our house was under construction) was a huge addition to an already packed schedule and then relocating and integrating into a new school and community. Throughout my career prior to children I had thrived on the busy and stressful months of the year (harvest & review season) but quiet months always followed. So it was a short and manageable piece of stressful time.
Stress no doubt contributed to my neuro symptoms however I was certain there was more to the story….
My friend Kate suggested I read a book called Medical Medium. Oh my gosh….everything he said is EXACTLY what happened to me. He says there is actually 61 strains of Glandular Fever but doctors are still almost two decades away from being able to test all of these strains. He said once you have had Glandular Fever (which I had) the virus lays dormant in your liver or spleen where it is undetected until you get run down (yep) and then it makes it move on your Thyroid (yep) and then your central nervous system (yep). I have a lot of friends that are doctors and nurses and I am sure this will be hard to accept without science and evidence. BUT I spent $1000’s in MRI’s, Neurolglist, Chiro and many other modalities and no one had the answers.
What I also know is that in November 2016 and in May 2017 I had a systemic virus in my system as it could be clearly seen under live blood analysis by my clever naturopath (who is also an ex-surgeon). When I then went for a blood test to test for Glandular Fever, Ross River Virus and Barr Forrest Virus all came back clear except for an old case of Glandular Fever in my system. So I am 1000% certain that my neuro symptoms were triggered by the Glandular Fever virus with the other perfect storm component being that I was extremely run down. BTW I had no outward signs of a virus. I was outwardly healthy…my only symptom that could be associated with Glandular Fever over this time was extreme fatigue.
I went back to my neurologist for a second consult and mentioned this to him and he said its very likely a virus could have caused it and they actually don’t know what causes neurological dysfunction but the assumption is stress! So I did go through a little period of time where I felt frustrated that everyone wants to blame everything on stress and really my neurologist just confirmed again they had no clue what causes these issues! Even though I think this is the cause I did not adhere to the strict protocol recommended in Medical Medium for a few different reasons…and instead I preferred Keto. More on that to come.
Even though stress was likely to be part of the story but not the full story, I made many positive changes in my life to reduce and improve my stress.
Some of them were but not limited to;
- Self care Sundays became locked in
- I stopped feeling like I needed to respond instantly (and find the answers) to the 50+ messenger messages I received a day
- In my business I became a far better leader by being more balanced, more duplicable and doing less with boundaries in place! I have had many of my team members tell me that this impact on my nervous system has made me a far better leader. I also am not a polished leader with my hair and makeup looking perfect each day – I am a hot mess mumma. I am real. I am a busy mum and a busy working mum (as my mum was). And I have enough love and energy for everyone as long as I make my health and self care my priority! Oxygen masks on yourself first remember!
- I turned off notifications on my phone and Facebook so I am not chained to it and I address stuff on there when it suits me
- I outsourced a lot – cleaning, book keeping, admin work
- I slept and slept and slept – from this time on Neil got up to children in the night for wet beds or whatever (after 6 years of me waking at night for breast feeding or any other reason it was a great that he covered that shift for me and also got up for the first hour in the morning with the kids while I slept some more
- I started yoga…only one day a week. But that 1 hour a week made a noticeable difference in my flexibility by the 3rd week, as I was a coiled up ball of stress. As of next week I am committing to 3 yoga classes a week
- I became obsessed with my bath and had at least 2 baths a week if not 7 of between 40-60 minutes (once kids in bed) and this bath was loaded with Magnesium Flakes, Bicarb Soda and Essential Oils and I had my oils in the diffuser
- I learnt all about the Keto diet for healing the nervous system (this is exciting)….more to come this is a whole post in itself
- I have a robust supplement program
- Now that my kids are at school I do nearly all of my work during school hours and that’s it! No more working at night except for the occasional zoom meeting or in person class but I am no longer on my computer at night.
- I prioritised traditional whole foods in my diet and especially bone broth daily
- It also triggered a spiritual journey where I learnt how important it is to be in alignment with ourselves and I learnt to trust my intuition more and drop from my head to my heart and lead and live from that place
- I would only go to Perth a maximum of once per month and would say no to the all the times outside that that I was requested
- I'm still working on making meditation a daily practice
There were many other things and a lot of each of these points I will break down in a blog by itself. In this blog my mess is now my message and our body is so clever in that it always wants to heal itself as long as we give it the right tools and nourishment to do so. I am grateful now for the lessons I have learnt from this extremely terrifying time in my life.
Today I still live a very full life but I’m way more balanced and I can remember names.